Friday night I drove down to Pueblo to spend the evening with my
sister.
I have to say I don’t know how people make it without sisters; or
siblings in general.
Being around one of my sisters just for a few hours lift my spirits
to new highs.
I had a good conversation with one of my very best friends, Sydney,
the other day about what being around positive females can do for your self-esteem
& I have to say I’m feeling pretty good about our discovery.
Being a social butterfly comes easy for some people, and I have
always admired the trait but haven’t ever been comfortable being “the life of
the party.” I am perfectly content
sitting at a small table with a few close friends or some family.
Being down here in the southern corner of Colorado dates with a girlfriend
are few and far between.
So when Jeb is gone at a show I use any excuse I can to drive
somewhere to see one of them.
After talking with Sydney my beliefs that you don’t need just
that ONE person are shining true.
It is part of my daily prayer that Jeb will always be the one I
can’t wait to tell practically everything to, & he is I know my “person”
like on Grey’s Anatomy.
BUT! He could seriously care less about a new nail polish color.
Or that I found the answer to my make-up issue once again on Pinterest.
I am one of those girls who just needs a girl.
And after talking to Sydney I realized how important it is to
make sure the females you surround yourself with are ones that want what is
best for you, and push you to be better. They also need to know the difference
between venting and nagging or a cry for help.
My sisters and closest friends have heard a lot from me lately.
I have been on a “clean eating” diet for 7 weeks now and haven’t
managed to lose weight.
Until last Thursday I had applied everywhere in Alamosa and hadn’t
heard a positive thing back! Nothing short of being told I wasn’t qualified to
work at Maurice’s.
I will be the first to admit after Jeb shared his exciting news
about a horse show in Vegas at the end of March; I was much more jealous and
upset that I couldn’t go instead of being excited for him.
So a little home done pedicure and a chick flick were just what
the doctor ordered.
Last year being engaged I was given lots of advice. Most was
good, beneficial and still floats into my thoughts from time to time. But I
seriously hated it when people would tell me how hard being married is and that
I was ruining our relationship for an insurance status. But if I am honest
sometimes those words float back to me as well.
I know I still have so much to learn and I hope I am never done
learning. It’s like anything else I love; I should always want to strive to be
better. With hair I hope I never tire of
trying new things, new ideas and learning new techniques. In my marriage I should
always want to make things better, and strive to reach new heights.
This weekend has taught me that although Jeb is my first priority
and my “person” I still need my girls. I still need to talk to a friend about
my frustrations, have a glass of wine or a chocolate dipped, smothered in
chocolate something & have us a good laugh. I still need a sister to vent
about his manly habits and she can agree with an “EWW!” Light-hearted of course,
Jeb is actually very good about putting the toilet seat back down! J
Anyways, I know I am not the first one to make this discovery, Sex
& the City is one of my very favorite examples. At some point in one of the
many episodes, one of the character’s men tells her to talk, see, and spend
some time with, THE GIRLS.
As far as I know, guys need guy time, “man caves” Shoot from
September to January they get to control the TV channel all weekend! (at least
at my house & my parents house)
So I am not going to feel bad about wanting to simply tweeze my
eyebrows next to my sister or spend $10.00 on 4nail polishes because we simply
can’t decide which one looks best. Or going to get pedicures and our nails done
for fun, spending time together can really make all the difference.
I thank Jesus every day for my sisters. They are truly my best
friends.
I also thank Jesus for my friends that are like my sisters; the
ones that I can go a week or two not talking to and pick up just like we never
left off, although in my friendship with Sydney we hardly ever make it past a
week.
Time with them is never wasted time. Even if it is just sitting
together being totally focused on our own projects.
One of the best pluses though, is when all of us get together our
guys included and we can still have a blast!
